As a parent you’re going to make mistakes- but can you apologize and rectify? Jonathan Rios Licensed Psychotherapist

You can’t escape judgement. People are going to have opinions. We don’t get to control that. People get to describe you but only you get to define you. Live your life! Stop playing small. You don’t get to repeat this thing.

This means you let them cry and don’t shame them for it. Help them express their sadness without humiliation. Acknowledge their sadness and encourage expression. “Hey babe, it’s ok to cry. Everyone feels sad sometimes. I cry too. Come here & give me a big bear hug. I love you very much.” This also means […]

We work in luxurious air conditioned cubicles & soft chairs. Zoom calls galore. Overfed, over entertained, consumed by preoccupation with self (selfie culture). We are impressed with our own writing and our own stories. If we aren’t careful we will have grown soft through extended luxury and abundance. A SUBTLE BOREDOM is eroding the soul […]

What does a Human Predator look for? Psychologists posit that human predators select their prey based on signals given off by their potential victims. In a matter of seconds, the predator acquires a sense of who is and isn’t a suitable target. For every victim that is assaulted , many more are looked over. What […]

Cultivate your aggressive side people… Aggression is a necessary attribute if you’re going to live a life worth living. It’s misdirected aggression that is the problem. Aggression in context is absolutely necessary. If you attack my home and threaten my children you can expect aggression from me. Why? Because defending what you LOVE requires a […]

Complaining rots you from the inside As a father of four young daughters I am constantly learning about the nature of humanity. We raise our children to be grateful, respectful, and honest. We demonstrate those traits daily to the best of our ability. But daily, at least one of our daughters will whine, complain, and […]

  Are people allowed to DISAGREE with you? They should be. We have names for people who have to be “right” all the time. STUBBORN. CONTROLLING. TYRANNICAL. NARCISSISTIC. If you FEEL personally assaulted when someone refutes or disagrees with your view then that is a sign you have tethered your identity to your view. By […]