This means you let them cry and don’t shame them for it. Help them express their sadness without humiliation. Acknowledge their sadness and encourage expression. “Hey babe, it’s ok to cry. Everyone feels sad sometimes. I cry too. Come here & give me a big bear hug. I love you very much.”
This also means you allow them to express their anger (in a channeled & appropriate manner). One way to do this is to give them a corner of the room, or a place to sit until they can collect themselves. “Hey sweetie, I know you’re upset. You’re angry. What made you upset? … I want you to sit here until you can control yourself. You have self control and I want you to practice that.”
Why does this matter???
Because children become adults… and they need to be able to regulate their own emotions without a substance, without shame, without blaming others, & without punching someone in the face
It starts when they are young