The fact that you are chronically “mr/mrs nice guy” is actually harming you & holding you back. It’s keeping you from meeting your potential. Here’s what I mean by the term Toxic niceness: You are being toxically nice when you……. -chronically say yes, when you really want to say no. -chronically cower to other people’s […]

As a parent you’re going to make mistakes- but can you apologize and rectify? Jonathan Rios Licensed Psychotherapist

You can’t escape judgement. People are going to have opinions. We don’t get to control that. People get to describe you but only you get to define you. Live your life! Stop playing small. You don’t get to repeat this thing.

This means you let them cry and don’t shame them for it. Help them express their sadness without humiliation. Acknowledge their sadness and encourage expression. “Hey babe, it’s ok to cry. Everyone feels sad sometimes. I cry too. Come here & give me a big bear hug. I love you very much.” This also means […]

We work in luxurious air conditioned cubicles & soft chairs. Zoom calls galore. Overfed, over entertained, consumed by preoccupation with self (selfie culture). We are impressed with our own writing and our own stories. If we aren’t careful we will have grown soft through extended luxury and abundance. A SUBTLE BOREDOM is eroding the soul […]

What does a Human Predator look for? Psychologists posit that human predators select their prey based on signals given off by their potential victims. In a matter of seconds, the predator acquires a sense of who is and isn’t a suitable target. For every victim that is assaulted , many more are looked over. What […]

Cultivate your aggressive side people… Aggression is a necessary attribute if you’re going to live a life worth living. It’s misdirected aggression that is the problem. Aggression in context is absolutely necessary. If you attack my home and threaten my children you can expect aggression from me. Why? Because defending what you LOVE requires a […]