So many of the young men I see are bored and directionless. Many of them have been given so much that they never had to fight for anything and thus never experienced the glory of a hard fought victory. Necessity can be a cruel but enlightening teacher. When I married at 29 I had a […]

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By the time I arrived as a cadet at the Virginia Military Institute (VMI) I had been unknowingly groomed for such a harsh environment. VMI is the oldest state-supported military college in the country. Life at VMI requires strict military discipline in a physically- and academically-demanding environment. The school is designed to produce elite student […]

Anxiety, Identity, and Idolatry   I started playing soccer at the age of 6. I began representing the Olympic development team at the age of 12. I played for numerous state champions and received a Division 1 soccer scholarship. After college I played in the minor leagues then moved to Northern Ireland where I played […]

Jim was in his 60s. He’d spent years battling relational rejection & severe alcoholism. He reported to my office with “severe chest pain” in his body. The pain was causing some serious problems; he couldn’t sleep and couldn’t relax, and found it very difficult to function during the day. I prayed with him in the […]

WE’VE ALL BEEN VICTIMIZED This is a popular notion these days and it makes total sense. When we identify as an oppressed person who has undergone a tragedy or hardship it will often bring us attention. We may even receive a boost in social status and perhaps mobilize others to come to our defense. Victim culture rewards […]

“An obligation to feel can freeze feelings” Cs Lewis Stop waiting to feel something. Start before you feel. Your feelings are about as dependable as a burp. Though beautiful & massively important we need to tread carefully. What really drives you? What motivates you? Why are you reading this blog? Why are you following your […]